Sunday, August 23, 2009

Notes from today’s sermon 08.23.09 Steven Hedgecoth

Difficult People/Difficult Behaviors

And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.

(Hebrews 10:24-25 KJV)

By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. (John 13:35 KJV)

Connecting the dots of relationships.

If it is God’s Will, it is God’s Bill and He will provide.

The practical side of the spirit; they are not two different things.

Everything is spiritual, even being a friend.

If you have a separate church life, work life and home life that are completely separate then you have multiple personality disorder.

A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.

(James 1:8 KJV)

We can all be difficult at times, but it is always easier to see in others than in ourselves.

Examples of Difficult People/Behaviors

  1. Billy the Bully – aggressive and sees others as weak
  2. Sammy the Sniper – undercover, you will never be able to prove it was him
  3. Nita the Know it all – can’t receive from others. Thinks they know it all but don’t actually do anything
  4. Insecure Eileen – constantly asking “are we ok?”
  5. Clyde the Complainer – had a good time, but finds things to complain about
  6. Wet Willie – constantly speaking negativity, wet blanket
  7. Dan the Volcano – if you push the wrong button they explode
  8. Vampires – they just suck the life out of you

The closer I get to the human race the more I love my dog.

Ways that we can choose to react to Difficult People/Behaviors

  1. Revenge – we all have this revenge issue where we just want to hit them
  2. Ignore – if we ignore it we just keep coming back around to it until we learn to deal with it.

Put on therefore, as God's elect, holy and beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, meekness, longsuffering; forbearing one another, and forgiving each other, if any man have a complaint against any; even as the Lord forgave you, so also do ye: and above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfectness.

(Colossians 3:12-14 ASV)

You are required as a Christian to take the higher road, because people are watching you and your every action represents the King.

People who are not loved hurt one another. People who are loved love one another.

You take the high road by putting on:

  1. Compassion
  2. Kindness/Gentleness
  3. Humility
  4. Forgiveness
  5. Love

When we have to put something on it is because it is not natural for us.

Putting on layers covers up the ugliness of what we may want to do.

Some current offenses you just have to bear them.

Sometimes people are difficult for a season, because of an issue or problem.

When dealing with difficult people always have a forgiving heart; by doing that they can see Jesus through you.

A grudging heart pumps that throughout your body.

If it be possible, as much as in you lieth, be at peace with all men. Avenge not yourselves, beloved, but give place unto the wrath of God: for it is written, Vengeance belongeth unto me; I will recompense, saith the Lord.

(Romans 12:18-19 ASV)

You have the power to deal with difficult people.

Your dreams should be bigger than your memories.

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